Tuesday, February 08, 2005

How to loose a friend within a month

Mail not sent a long time ago...

Hi!

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...For the last 6-7 days I have been struggling with myself weather to send you this e-mail or not. But since I don’t have anything more to loose and you are not talking to me regardless this mail, I will send it.
Actually for the last few days I can’t get you out of my head. I was cleaning my inbox and I found some e-mails from you that made me think about the relationship we had. You came in my life in one really hard period and you made it easier to bear.

And now you disappeared from my life. Well, I hate to say it…but this not talking to you hurts. Actually, not knowing the reason WHY, hurts even more then not talking. So can I please ask you to send me some kind of answer? If for no other reason, then for the old times, when (if) I meant something to you. After this mail, if you don’t want, we don’t have to communicate ever again (which would make me really sad, I have to say that, but I can take it. I think. ).

Even if you don’t answer this mail, you don’t have to worry about me hating you. That’s impossible. I will always keep you in a nice memory. I don’t know did you realize that, but there was a period, when one call from you was enough to keep me happy all day . And I really miss that. I miss you...

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You know those kinds of friends who forget about their friends when they fall in love? Same friends he will need after his relationship breaks down for 10th time. And friendships need to be cherished like flowers. You don’t need to take care of it every day, but from time to time it needs some attention. Otherwise it dies. It doesn’t need any big disaster to happen. Flowers just die by their nature.

He had this long relationship. We met during one of the down periods of his relationship and instantly become really close. I was also going through a tough period then. We were best friends. Him and me. And then he started dating Her again, and he stopped communicating. I called him, tried to talk with him, see him, but he always found a reason not to do it.
That year my friend forgot about my birthday. Few months after that, I got sick. He knew about it. And he didn’t call. Or send e-mail. I didn’t expect him to come and see me, but I expected at least a call. Nothing. Zero. This, so-called friend.

She left him again. Cheated on him. And he “came back” to me. Said he was sorry. Asked for my compassion. Cried on my shoulder. We were good friends again. Talked all the time, hanged around.
And then he got back with Her. I haven’t seen him for a long time. I miss him.

You are a bastard! Worst of a kind!

2 comments:

Alex said...

I can understand you..I really do.Something like this happen to me too.My best friend for 3 years doesn't want to see me anymore..I can't understant why..I haven't done anything deserving that kind of attitude.
She was the closest human being in my life.And I was too for her.Everyday we would be together..talking,laughing(a lot!)..we loved each other so much..oh god..I was so sure that she would never betray me.
And all of a suden she starts being a different person.She stops caliing me,stops talking with me the same way,stops being the person I loved.Everytime I would ask her what is wrong she would answer me something like:"Nothing! what are you talking about?!"
But there was something going wrong ,very wrong.I tried,I really tried to find something that I might had done wrong but I found nothing.So it should be her..Was she in love with somebody ?(cause people sometimes act weird when they 're in love) But no she wasn't.
So I'm asking my self (while listening to a Beatles song "I'm Looking Through You") a big WHY..so.."Love has a nasty habit of disappearing overnight" doesn't it?

Anonymous said...

yes sir it happened to me.I was with the other person for 12 years and we were thick and thin in all types of weather.

things changed and the person does not answer my calls and there is no contact. I was also at fault in not handling the crisis period properly