Generally, I’m not a very “touchy” person.
I don’t like when I need to feel someone’s breath. I don’t like people intruding my personal space. I don’t like when they come really close to me, like they are going to kiss me, but they won’t, coz it’s not in the nature of our relationship.
I don’t like when people touch me for no reason, like it’s a normal thing when people are having coffee, to touch each other on the back, tap on the shoulder too often, hold hands, touch knees, take off crumbs and hair from each other shirt…
It really freaks me out!
I don’t like when people, out of the blue, start massaging me. You know those kind of people who start massaging others the minute they enter a room.
Now, If you like it…it’s really great! But if you go peanuts, like me…it’s a living hell.
And it’s been like this since I was a child. I remember occasions when neighbors or relatives I don’t see very often would try to lift me up, sit in their lap…and I would start crying and screaming to avoid that. when they weren’t touching me, I was adorable, cute, polite child…or so they say…
To sum it up…I don’t like to touch, cuddle, kiss, hug… Not in a day-to-day relationship with random people, friends, colleagues. In those other relationships, emotional-sexual-intimate ones, between me and “significant other”, things are completely different. I can’t get enough of it! It’s like I have to have ONE person to compensate lack of physical contact with others.
This can be not only surprising, but also confusing for me, and person I’m in a relationship with. Especially, if this person knws me as a “friend you don’t touch if you don’t have to”.
Whatever the reason for my “physical contact issue” is, my personal space is reserved just for me and my boyfriend. Others...keep your distance!
You can enter my space if you haven’t seen me for a really long time, and you wish to hug me or kiss me.
You can’t habitate there for no reason.
Or enter it anytime you like. It’s not pleasant.
